@jlroberson @batkaren
as @jlroberson said, also a relief of some kind.
Because after the shock of realization wears off, it's easier to forgive one self and one's elders. And ones peers too. I went through it with my mom, almost unconsiously, but my daughter was able to articulate the change, and that was its own evolution in understanding, to see that transformation through her eyes.
Something at least some from every generation go through.